“Even if we sometimes feel unsure about adapting or creating family prayers, rituals, and other practices… we have this concrete reminder that the way we live our everyday lives matters not just to God but to the corporate lives of even our smallest faith communities.”
Faith that “Sticks”
As a coach and curator in the area of Christian formation at Virginia Seminary, I spend my days immersed in the world of best practices for teaching and learning about faith, for claiming and practicing and living faith. It’s my job to distill and share what church leaders, researchers, curriculum writers, seminary faculty, and others have learned about passing on this great gift of God.
One of the chief lessons of this work might surprise some people: Studies have shown that the most significant factor among those that help faith “stick” in adolescents and persist into adulthood is what researchers call “family religiosity”: talking about faith, participating in household devotions, serving those in need as a family. In other words, faith is formed, or not, in the home—more so than in church, it turns out. Adults benefit from family religiosity too, both of their family of origin and their faith at home practice as adults—even single adults.
This is both an intimidating and an empowering reality. Even if we sometimes feel unsure about adapting or creating family prayers, rituals, and other practices (and I don’t mind admitting that I do), it’s nice to have this concrete reminder that the way we live our everyday lives matters not just to God but to the corporate lives of even our smallest faith communities.
Faith at Home for the Holy Family
Right after the Christmas narrative, Luke includes a sometimes overlooked passage that can lead us into a deeper understanding of what it means to foster faith at home.
The story of the baby Jesus’s eighth day of life is brief and relatively ordinary: “After eight days had passed, it was time to circumcise the child; and he was called Jesus, the name given by the angel before he was conceived in the womb” (Luke 2:21).
The circumcision and naming was just the first rite of passage for Jewish boys in Ancient Israel. It almost certainly took place at home, and not in the Temple as some Christian art portrays.
We don’t know much else about the faith practices of the Holy Family, except for a yearly pilgrimage to Jerusalem, and Jesus did not live to reach many later life-stage transitions. But he did famously attend a wedding feast, and use that particular rite of passage as a metaphor in much of his teaching. We also believe that he instituted the Eucharist in another bit of at-home religious observance: sharing the Passover meal with his friends.
The Power of Home Rituals
Even those of us who are terrified of praying or talking about God at home probably attend to family faith during times like Advent and Christmas. We make ready our homes with decorations. Perhaps we light Advent wreaths. Certainly we give or receive gifts or participate in a festive meal. I believe these practices and the holiday season in general can be a source of valuable momentum for this particular aspect of Christ-like living.
How would this look at other times of the year? Let’s spend some time considering how in 2015 we might attend to our faith not just at church but in our households of whatever size.
- What new or additional ritual might help faith stick a bit more for us?
- What practice with friends and loved ones could regularly gather us around the light of Christ?
- What rite of passage or other life transition might provide an occasion to give thanks for God’s many blessings or even to share with God that we’re ready for better?
There are many resources for family faith rituals, but the most important thing is that you find a practice that works for you.
Happy New Year, and happy hunting at home for new ways to engage and deepen your faith in the God who came among us in an extraordinary—and also ordinary—human life.
This article is adapted from a sermon preached at St Paul’s Parish, K Street, Washington, D.C. January 1, 2015 and first appeared at http://www.buildfaith.org/2015/01/02/a-resolve-to-practice-faith-at-home/.